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  • Bucks, Bears and A Wildfire

    Smoky Mountains near Cherokee, NC
    Smoky Mountains near Cherokee, NC

    Photos of the Mountains, the Wildfire, the Bear and the Buck are by yours truly…

    View from the Blue Ridge Parkway near Looking Glass Falls
    View from the Blue Ridge Parkway near Looking Glass Falls

    My wife and I just returned from a little mountain road trip that included driving the Blue Ridge Parkway from Asheville, North Carolina into Cherokee, NC. From there we drove over the top of the Smokies on Highway 411 down into Gatlinburg, Tennessee. The mountains were beautiful in some places, but much of the scenery was enveloped in a smoky haze from the numerous wild fires burning in the area.

    Wildfire on Chimney Tops, Smokey Mountain National Park
    Wildfire on Chimney Tops, Smokey Mountain National Park

    I took this shot of a fire burning at the crest of the Chimney Tops in the Smoky Mountain National Park. The entire mountaintop was enveloped, giving the impression of a giant campfire.
    A Chinook Helicopter was dropping water on the fire with apparent little effect. The smoke plume rose thousands of feet into the air.
    Apparently we have a guardian angel, because we stayed the night in Gatlinburg and departed peacefully the next morning, only to learn a little while later the town was becoming surrounded by more wildfires. Only when we arrived home did we learn of the total devastation that began a few hours after our departure.

    Black Bear in the Smokies
    Black Bear in the Smokies

    The big Black Bear pictured here was turning logs and looking for grubs only a few miles down the mountain from the Chimney Tops fire. I hope he survived.

    Whitetail Buck in Cades Cove
    Whitetail Buck in Cades Cove

    The Whitetail buck pictured here was in a field in Cades Cove. There were no fires in that area, but the buck was so enamored with a doe that came and hid behind us, he probably wouldn’t have fled anyway.
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  • A Message For My Grandchildren

    My Grandchildren Face A World Even Worse Than the One I experienced in the ’60’s!!

    Because several of you said you missed it, this is a repeat of my recent Facebook post.

    A message for my grandchildren:

    Before long you will become a teenager. It will seem at times that your mother and father are the dumbest people on earth. You will grow frustrated with them and their decisions affecting you. Please, believe your granddad when I tell you they are not dumb. They are trying to make the best decisions they can for you. You may not understand or agree, but they DO have your best well-being in their hearts.

    No, they are not perfect. They are only human. They are parents desperately wanting you to grow into adulthood without dying in an automobile accident or becoming an immoral sociopath. They do not want you to be greedy, self-centered or any of those things to which the human condition often succumbs. And the funny thing is that in a few years you will look back and think, “They weren’t so stupid after all.”

    Please let me share with you the truths my two-thirds of a century-plus years have given me. First and foremost: give your heart to a higher being, take time to meditate and pray. Study the history of mankind. Actually, I am jumping ahead. Hopefully, you will—you must—do these two things during your teenage years. Right now, I want you to pick your friends very carefully. Misguided friends and peer pressure have led many a young soul down the path of damnation. When someone belittles you for not participating in his or her—you fill in the blank—theft, lie, gossip, use of drugs, bullying the little guy, whatever—belittle that person in turn for being weak and self-centered. YOU be the leader.

    I may not be here on earth with you during these years, but I will be watching after you. Always conduct yourself both privately and publicly with this in mind. And keep these additional things in mind:

    Being RIGHT doesn’t necessarily matter in all circumstances. This means that even when you know you are right, there are times when silence is the better option.

    Listen twice as much as you talk. You will learn nothing if you are not a good listener. And really do listen to the other person. Ask questions. Try to understand alternative viewpoints.

    Always look outward, not inward. When you are self-centered, your life is important only to you, but when it is about others your life becomes important to many.

    Strive to do your best, not to be perfect.

    Cultivate good manners and social graces. Cretins are a dime a dozen.

    Don’t argue or make excuses. Excuses are the feather beds of failure.

    Be genuinely humble. No one likes an over-blown ego.

    Be organized and on-time.

    Be kind to ALL people—even those who do not deserve it.

    You cannot fix everything and everyone. Do what you can then move on.

    Your word and your integrity are everything. Live by this.

    Always remember that life is not fair. Even when you do everything right, you will experience undeserved behavior from those around you. Just keep in mind the sign my old pediatrician, Doctor Clifton Woolley, had on his office wall: ILLEGITIMI NON CARBORUNDUM “operor retineo non forensic liberi attero vos.” Your great-grandmother said it meant, “Don’t let the bastards get you down.” There was also a photo of him fresh out of medical school standing beside a C-47 aircraft with full combat medical gear and wearing a parachute. He was a highly decorated paratrooper during World War II and the reason I too volunteered for the airborne and became a paratrooper. This is to say, “Choose your role models wisely and they will take you to new heights (pun intended).”

    Lastly, stop and look around each and every day. Live in the moment. Live life, love people, and remember that love is not what you say but what you DO.

    I say these things with the knowledge that every window in my glass house was broken years ago. My hope for you is that these words will help you avoid the mistakes I have made.

    Your Loving Grandfather,

    Rick DeStefanis

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  • Were The Election Results a Failure for The Age of Reason?

    … Or What the Hell Just Happened?

    The collage of young man and woman face expressions

    There is one primary reason the media, the pollsters, even the conservative pundits got it wrong on Election Day. One can listen to any media source and hear a litany of probable causes for the big surprise, even some which are grounded in an element of truth. However, there is one reason none of them have mentioned. It is the reason people woke up the morning after Election Day totally surprised by a Donald Trump presidency.

    This is not an exculpatory defense for Mr. Trump, nor is it one for his opponent or the press. Admittedly, the conservative candidate’s very personae lent itself to much of the hysteria, but probably only marginally more so than his opponent’s own extensive resume of controversies and blatant corruption. I will defend neither. This is a statement instead on the pathos of ignorance that surrounds those who have no clue as to the real reason they were totally blindsided by the election results. First, let’s look at some facts.

    After the elections of Presidents Clinton and Obama, middle-Americans did not take to the streets protesting and rioting. Did you see a single Democrat or liberal voter targeted and beaten? I think not. Rather, in those elections voters who supported the losing candidates accepted, begrudgingly perhaps, but silently, the will of the majority. They accepted that our constitutional republic is one of laws to which they would adhere. So, what happened?

    It was an inevitable response by the Silent Majority to those with whom they differ, one of silence. It is one that has become magnified more so in the last decade for two reasons. The first cause is that great Orwellian lie owned and promoted predominately within liberal and academic circles: political correctness. Failure to resign one’s self to its coercive precepts is to be subjected to vitriolic and abusive verbal accusations and attacks, and in many instances, loss of job, business or other punitive measures. Political Correctness has proven a convenient way to stifle free expression and shut down those who might offer alternative view-points. Join the group-think of this growing ideology or be damned. It is one of the first steps toward controlling the masses and the first reason the Silent-Majority has become more so in the last decade.

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    The second reason middle-America has grown more silent is one created by a vociferous verbal onslaught and beat-down for those who dare voice a conservative-based opinion. This is a product of a press, predominately television and on-line, that has chosen ideology over objectivity. The press is no longer an entity that guards public ethics, nor is it a government watchdog. Rather it has become an ideological zealot willing to deliver the lives of Americans unto governmental control and support the devil himself if it serves their interests.

    Dare a member of the middle-American silent majority voice a counterpoint to this ideology he or she becomes characterized as racist, bigoted, xenophobic, homophobic—fill in your own blank here. Elitist press, politicians, members of academia and pundits refer to those in “fly-over” land as rural voters, non-college educated voters and a list of code-names they would gladly, if it were not for their political correctness, replace with redneck, coal miner, deplorable, farmer, truck driver, uncle tom, ignorant Southerner, moronic Midwesterner, old white people—again, choose your own. There are many more.

    Yes, the silent majority in middle-America has taken to the words of Theodore Roosevelt. They speak softly (or not at all) and carry a big stick (their votes). The surprise outcome of this election was the direct result of a total stifling of civil discourse and the disenfranchisement of middle-America.

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